Mar 17

So why this blog on Marriage4today?

That’s a good question.  With all the thousands and thousands of blogs on the Internet today, why is another blog ond&sf1 Marriage going to be helpful?  Aren’t we just another voice in the forests of websites?

 

 

Well, I can think of a few reasons to start with:
  1. Daniel and I have had over 25 years of counselling and mentoring experiences in this area. We could tell you stories that would make your hair curl …. and stories that would bring tears of laughter. So we are sure you find something of value on this blog. We invite you to add your stories as well!
  2. We have collected a warehouse full of resources that we would like to share with you. We have personal evaluation worksheets and in-depth series on many of the topics that we need to understand in our world today. I Susanne, have over 10 years of training and teaching Secondary student in this area.
  3. We have been involved in writing blogs for over 5 years. That takes commitment and perseverance. When things get busy, we still need to ‘feed the blogs’.  One blog you might find helpful on ‘What your Dad didn’t teach you about the Opposite Sex’ is on www.conflictsolutions.mentorsnotebook.com

Susanne: “We find ourselves in a time in history when family structures are changing.  The absence of mature ‘father figures’ is especially challenged.  As a result of missing Dads, even male culture and thinking is strange and even foreign to our female world.  Then, males have trouble understanding the way we females think.

“So what do we, as girls and women learn about how males think?  From our absent fathers or thick skinned brothers….? How will society cope with absent males, both emotionally and physically?”

  1. We have many topics of blogs and new websites coming up. So this is one place to read about all kinds of important info, news, bargains and helpful guides to better living.
  2. Our society is changing with every new generation ….but some things need to be passed on to the next generation. We can help do that. We need as much shared community and communication as possible to help those struggling with life.  Each one of us can make a difference!  We want your input to do this too.
  3. Life isn’t easy and many dreams are shattered along the road to maturity and understanding. Just knowing others have gone through the struggles, the shattered dreams and come up strong can help keep others inspired. We want to do that in a weary, busy-busy world.
  4. We have some free resources as well as resources we have specially designed for each category we share. So we invite you to help yourself where possible.
  5. We passionately believe in Marriage because we have seen the joys and the tragedies when marriages struggle. Marriage and the family are the foundations of our society.  We want to help others with this journey too.
  6. We’ve been married for married for 42 years so we do have something to share about the struggles and joys of marriage.

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Jul 19

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Jul 19

Latest Issues For Married Couples News

09c – McClung Residence – 1959 La Salle Ave (E)
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West Adams Heights

“Nowadays we scarcely notice the high stone gates which mark the entrances on Hobart, Harvard, and Oxford streets, south of Washington Boulevard. For one thing, the traffic is too heavy, too swift; and then, again, the gates have been obscured by intrusions of shops and stores. At the base of the stone pillars appears the inscription “West Adams Heights.” There was a time when these entranceways were formidable and haughty, for they marked the ways to one of the first elite residential areas in Los Angeles. . . In the unplanned early-day chaos of Los Angeles, West Adams Heights was obviously something very special, an island in an ocean of bungalows—approachable, but withdrawn and reclusive—one of the few surviving examples of planned urban elegance of the turn of the century.”

– Carey McWilliams, “The Evolution of Sugar Hill,” Script, March, 1949: 30.

Today West Adams Heights is still obviously something special. The past sixty years, however, have not been kind. In 1963 the Santa Monica Freeway cut through the heart of West Adams Heights, dividing the neighborhood, obscuring its continuity. In the 1970’s the city paved over the red brick streets and removed the ornate street lighting. After the neighborhood’s zoning was changed to a higher density, overzealous developers claimed several mansions for apartment buildings. Despite these challenges, however, “The Heights,” as the area was once known, has managed to regain some of its former elegance.

The West Adams Heights tract was laid out in 1902, in what was then a wheat field on the western edge of town. Although the freeway now creates an artificial barrier, the original neighborhood boundaries were Adams Boulevard, La Salle Ave, Washington Boulevard, and Western Avenue. Costly improvements were integrated into the development, such as 75-food wide boulevards (which were some of the first contoured streets not to follow the city grid), lots elevated from the sidewalk, ornate street lighting, and large granite monuments with red-brass electroliers at the entrance to every street. These upgrades increased the lot values, which helped ensure the tract would be an enclave for the elite.

One early real estate ad characterized the neighborhood stating: “West Adams Heights needs no introduction to the public: it is already recognized as being far superior to any other tract. Its high and slightly location, its beautiful view of the city and mountains make t a property unequaled by any other in the city.”

The early residents’ were required to sign a detailed restrictive covenant. This hand-written document required property owners to build a “first-class residence,” of at least two stories, costing no less than two-thousand dollars (at a time when a respectable home could be built for a quarter of that amount, including the land), and built no less than thirty-five feet from the property’s primary boundary. Common in early twentieth century, another clause excluded residents from selling or leasing their properties to non-Caucasians.

By the mid 1930’s, however, most of the restrictions had expired. Between 1938 and 1945 many prominent African-Americans began to make “The Heights” their home. According to Carey McWilliams, West Adams Heights became known “Far and wide as the famous Sugar Hill section of Los Angeles,” and enjoyed a clear preeminence over Washington’s smart Le Droit Park, St. Louis’s Enright Street, West Philadelphia, Chicago’s Westchester, and Harlem’s fabulous Sugar Hill.

West Adams Heights, now also known as Sugar Hill, played a major role in the Civil Rights movement in Los Angeles. In 1938 Norman Houston, president of the Golden State Mutual Life Insurance Company, and an African-American, purchased a home at 2211 South Hobart Boulevard. Legal Action from eight homeowners quickly ensued. During that period, other prominent African-Americans began to make Sugar Hill their home – including actress Hattie McDaniels, dentists John and Vada Summerville, actress Louise Beavers, band leader Johnny Otis, and performers Pearl Baily and Ethel Waters, and many more. On December 6, 1945, the “Sugar Hill Cases” were heard before Judge Thurmond Clark, in LA Superior Court. He made history by become the first judge in America to use the 14th Amendment to disallow the enforcement of covenant race restrictions. The Los Angeles Sentinel quoted Judge Clark: “This court is of the opinion that it is time that [African-Americans] are accorded, without reservations and evasions, the full rights guaranteed them under the 14th Amendment.” Gradually, over the last century people of nearly ever background have made historic West Adams their home.

The northern end of West Adams Heights is now protected as part of the Harvard Heights Historic Preservation Overlay Zone (HPOZ). The Historic West Adams area of Los Angeles (which includes West Adams Heights) boasts the highest concentration of turn-of-the-century homes west of the Mississippi, as well as the highest concentration of National Historic Landmarks, National Register of Historic Places, National Historic Districts, State Historic Landmarks, Los Angeles Cultural-Historic Monuments, and Historic Preservation Overlay Zones in the city. The entirety of West Adams Heights should be nominated as a National Register Historic District, for the quality of homes, the prominence of the architects, notoriety of the people who lived in the neighborhood, and the role it played in civil rights.

Perhaps a quote adapted from a fireplace mantle in the Frederick Rindge mansion best symbolizes the optimism which exists in West Adams: “California Shall be Ours as Long as the Stars Remain.”

01 – Harvard Street Monument – Harvard Blvd & Washington Blvd, 1902.

Nearly destroyed by neglect and vandals over decades of inner city decay, the Harvard and Hobart Boulevard monuments were restored in 2002.

02 – Frank Southerland & Grace Pirtle Hutton, and John A Pirtle Residence – 2047 La Salle Ave – 1907

According to the property permit, the house was built for E B Spencer in 1906. Most likely he built this house on speculation (as he did two years earlier at 2039-2041 La Salle Ave), because according to the LA County Tax Assessor’s Office, John A Pirtle purchased this property in 1907. The same year there appears an article in the LA Herald announcing the engagement of Frank Southerland Hutton to Miss Grace Pirtle, who lived with her parents at 1819 S Union Ave, and their plans to build a house in Los Angeles after their honeymoon. Another 1907 article indicates the happy couple were married and moved into their new home on La Salle Ave. But, by 1909, they’ve moved to 1827 S Normandie and John A Pirtle is shown at the La Salle house. John Pirtle was a Southern California industrialist who appears to have made his fortune in the oil fields of Tennessee, Alabama, and Texas, through a company called the Beaumont Exchange and the Oriole Oil Company. He also speculated in water, with the West Los Angeles Water Company, West Side Water Company and the Glendale Consolidated Water Company. Frank Hutton was a well-known and respected Los Angeles lawyer, a partner of the firm Schweitzer and Hutton. This 1907 house is an unassuming looking American Craftsman bungalow, which hides its actual size. Beneath the long, low slung slope of the gable is a rather large house of 2-1/2 stories. The rounded, Colonial Revival styled balcony rail is an unusual feature.

03 – Robert K Wilson, J Frank & Virginia N Waters, and Mark & Mamie (May) E Phelps Residence – 2039-2041 La Salle Ave – 1905 – Frank Dale Hudson and Julius W Krause

Dutch Colonial in West Adams Heights is a rare architectural style, probably already deemed to be passé, but two examples exist nonetheless. The other Dutch is on South Hobart, built for C I D Moore, and is turned on its side, giving it a more Cotswold appearance. This Dutch Colonial is a straight-on interpretation of the vernacular. The architect of the house is reported to be Julius W Krause. Prior to 1895 Krause was partnered with Frank Dale Hudson, of the firm Hudson and Munsell. For a time Krause was also the Superintendent of Building for the City of Los Angeles. The original builder of this house was E B Spencer, however it’s obvious he built it in 1905 on speculation (just as he did two years later the house at 2047 La Salle Ave). This house was quickly sold the same year to Robert K Wilson who Just as quickly flipped it in 1907 to J Frank Waters. Six months later Waters sold the residence to Mark and Mamie (May) E Phelps. The Phelps’s lived at this resident until Mark’s death in 1924. Mark Phelps was described as a pioneer of Los Angeles, first finding success in mining, then as a live-stock dealer. He retired just 3 months before his death. By 1926 J E Phillips who was reported to be living at this address was arrested for smuggling Moonshine Whiskey in his car. In 1943, William J Morris, a building contractor, was the resident, according to his obituary.

04 – Wilbur Wells & Blanche Lillian Smith Keim Residence – 2033 La Salle Ave – 1904

Wilbur Wells Keim graduated from the Pharmacy School at UC Berkeley in 1902. He married Miss Blanche Lillian Smith in 1903. A large reception for the couple was held at the West Adams Heights mansion of Wesley W Beckett, 2218 S Harvard Blvd. The couple began building their house on La Salle in 1904. Keim opened a pharmacy with Edward R Neill (Keim-Neill Drug Co) just a few blocks away on the Southwest corner of Washington and Normandie, at 1890 W Washington Boulevard. Their daughter, Lorraine Keim was a 1925 graduate of USC and a member of the Kappa Alpha Sorority. The house itself is a mystery. The front porch is Craftsman. The eves under the second story and the overall shape appear to be Colonial Revival. The front door with the half sidelights and smaller window openings suggest an older structure which was moved to this location and remodeled. The effect, unfortunately, isn’t quite successful.

05 – William A & Rose H Jenkins Residence – 2029 La Salle Ave – 1909

Originally the address was 1949 La Salle Ave, but a reorganization of addresses by the city to make them more uniform changed it to 2029 La Salle Ave sometime around 1909-1910.

06 – Frank A & Marie C Von Violand Vickery Residence – 2025 La Salle Ave – 1909

When Frank A Vickery passed away he left a sizable estate. Numerous properties were advertised for auction in the February 28, 2014, issue of The California Outlook, including three in West Adams Heights (1947 La Salle Ave, 2017 La Salle Ave, and 2025 La Salle Ave). Vickery had purchased these unimproved lots in 1906 from the Gopher Land Company as investments and improved the lots. Frank Vickery was a mining industrialist with many interests, including the Pan-American Hardwoods Company in Mexico and the San Gabriel River Rock Company. The Vickery’s lived at 341 Andrews Blvd (S St Andrews Pl), in a 1907 mansion they built for ,000. According to the LA Times and LA Herald society pages, they entertained often. In May, 1910, the Vickery’s sold their St Andrews Pl home through the Althouse Brothers for ,000, to Mrs. Frederick Fischer, and relocated to their 2025 La Salle Ave home. After Frank Vickery’s death, auction, either the house didn’t sell at auction or his wide decided to continue living at the residence. The 1923-24 Southwestern Blue Book lists her at this location, with visiting on “Third Wednesdays. “ Mrs. Vickery was also a member of the Ebell and Friday Morning Clubs. Although this house must have been smaller and less opulent than their St Andrews Place residence, it is still a handsome American Craftsman home, with only minor alterations.

07 – Income property owned by Frank A Vickery – 2017 La Salle Ave – 1909

When Frank A Vickery passed away he left a sizable estate. Numerous properties were advertised for auction in the February 28, 2014, issue of The California Outlook, including three in West Adams Heights (1947 La Salle Ave, 2017 La Salle Ave, and 2025 La Salle Ave). Vickery had purchased these unimproved lots in 1906 from the Gopher Land Company as investments and improved the lots. Frank Vickery was a mining industrialist with many interests, including the Pan-American Hardwoods Company in Mexico and the San Gabriel River Rock Company. The house is American Craftsman, and the architect and builder was the Alfred E Georgian, Co.

08 – La Salle Ave Streetscape
Looking South on La Salle Ave (from left to right):
A. 2047 La Salle Ave – Hutton-Pirtle Residence
B. 2041 La Salle Ave – Phelps Residence
C. 2029 La Salle Ave – Hull Residence
D. 2033 La Salle Ave – Keim Residence
E. 2025 La Salle Ave – Frank A & Marie C Von Violand Vickery Residence
F. 2017 La Salle Ave – Income Property owned by Frank A Vickery

09 – Stanley Frederick & Sue A Shaffer McClung – 1959 La Salle Ave – 1905 – Robert Farquhar Train & Robert Edmund Williams

Imagine this house as it might have been in 1905: the long sloping roof of natural shingles, which would have matched the color of the shingled siding; ornate rails along the porch, widows weep, and above the bay window; a full chimney and no bars on the windows or doors. The effect would have been striking, and will again when the house is one day restored. It’s one of the most significant surviving houses on La Salle. It was designed by the architecture team of Robert Farquar Train and Robert Edmund Williams (Train & Williams), for Pacific Mutual Secretary Stanley F McClung. He was part of the “Old Company” forced out of power in the early 1930’s along with his brother-in-law George Ira Cochran.

10 – Income property owned by Frank A Vickery – 1947 La Salle Ave – 1909

When Frank A Vickery passed away he left a sizable estate. Numerous properties were advertised for auction in the February 28, 2014, issue of The California Outlook, including three in West Adams Heights (1947 La Salle Ave, 2017 La Salle Ave, and 2025 La Salle Ave). Vickery had purchased these unimproved lots in 1906 from the Gopher Land Company as investments and improved the lots. Frank Vickery was a mining industrialist with many interests, including the Pan-American Hardwoods Company in Mexico and the San Gabriel River Rock Company. The house is a handsome American Craftsman residence, making use of horizontal siding to make it appear wider.

11 – Evan G & Matilee Loeb Evans and William A & Rose H Haley Jenkins Residence – 1929 La Salle Ave – 1903 – Allied Arts Co

This home is American Craftsman designed in 1903 by The Allied Arts Co (as was its neighbor at 1919 La Salle Ave), a prominent architecture firm responsible for many LA landmarks, including the recently restored Hall of Justice. A J Carlson was the contractor. Evan G Evans, from Chicago, IL, arrived in Los Angeles in the late 1990’s, and married Matilee Loeb in 1898. The Mr & Mrs Evans were prominent in the society pages. The second owner, William (Will) Jenkins, was like many of his neighbors, a Capitalist. Jenkins appears to have had his hand in many enterprises, including the Madera Canal & Irrigation Company. Mrs. Jenkins passed away August 5, 1933, at her home at 148 S Irving Blvd, survived by her husband.

12 – John H & Evangeline “Eva” Rose Clark Tupper and Thomas M & Mary P Sloan Residence – 1919 La Salle Ave – 1903 – Allied Arts Co

John H and Wilbur S Tupper were born in Evansville, Wisconsin, the children of John H and Mary Sophia Foster Tupper. In the 1800’s the brothers relocated in San Francisco found themselves in the insurance industry. Wilbur Tupper became Vice-President of Conservative Life and again both brothers moved to Los Angeles. Wilbur was destined for success and after the death of then-president Frederick Hastings Rindge, he became president of both Conservative Life and Pacific Mutual (founded by Leland Stanford). Wilbur’s house was located at 2237 S Harvard Blvd and John’s at 1919 La Salle Ave, within the same tract. In 1906 Wilbur suddenly resigned from the company in scandal involving another woman (not his wife). He fled to Chicago, abandoning his wife and position. His brother John probably suffered for his brother’s indiscretion, which may help explain his sudden departure from the neighborhood and the sale of his house to Thomas M Sloan. About the same time Thomas Sloan had been promoted to Assistant General Freight Agent of the Sante Fe Railroad. This transitional Victorian/Craftsman house was designed in 1903 by the Allied Arts Co, (as was its neighbor at 1929 La Salle Ave), a prominent architecture firm responsible for many LA landmarks, including the recently restored Hall of Justice. A J Carlson was the contractor.

13 – Charles Kraft Residence – 1913 La Salle Ave – 1913 – Earl E Scherich

A more modest and later addition to the neighborhood, this 1913 Craftsman Bungalow was built for Charles Kraft, Vice-President of the J C Huggins Co, a brokerage and loan company. The home was designed by Architect Earl E Scherich, and May L Greenwood, builder.

14 – Roland Paul Residence Gates – 1986 W Washington Blvd – 1905 – Sumner P Hunt and Arthur Wesley Eager (Demolished)

Between a bicycle shop and a convalescence home are the gates to 1986 W Washington Blvd, which remain the only evidence that a home designed by Hunt & Eager once stood here. Originally commissioned by Mrs. R Fitzpatrick of Pico Blvd, in February of 1905, it was quickly turned over to pioneer Col Charles F Howland, who lived around the corner at 1902 S Harvard Blvd. He attempted to sell it in September, 1905, to Walter Rose, but the deal apparently fell through. In November, 1905, Col Howland successfully sold the home to Roland Paul.

15 – Elizabeth L Kenney Residence – 2012 W Washington Blvd – 1906 – Philip Gengembre Hubert (Attributed)

When this home was built, Philip Gengembre Hubert, celebrated New York City architect, was listed as the owner. It was most-likely designed by him on speculation. His residence was already established in 1903 at 2144 S Hobart Blvd. Hubert was responsible for designing many New York City landmarks, including the Chelsea Hotel, and after nearly 40 years in practice Hubert retired to Los Angeles, where he died in 1911. This home was sold to Elizabeth L Kenney, the second female to graduate the law department at Stanford University and continued her education at Northwestern University in Chicago. Kenney became the first practicing female attorney in Los Angeles in 1897, entering into practice with her uncle. The house, unfortunately, has been mistreated with a layer of stucco and aluminum windows. We can only hope evidence of the house’s original nature lies underneath.

16 – Commercial Block – 2034 W Washington Blvd (formerly the home of Nathaniel Dryden, 1902 S Harvard Blvd)

Evidence of how quickly Los Angeles was changing in the early 20th Century can be seen in this attractive commercial block. Nathaniel Dryden, an architect and engineer who built the Brand Library in Glendale and the Robinson Mansion in Beverly Hills, built his home on this corner in 1903. Just 20 years later it had been replaced by a commercial building already. Such was the value of land in the quick-growing city.

17 – Clara Pitt Durant Residence – 1909 S Harvard Blvd. 1908. Sumner P Hunt and Arthur Wesley Eager

Barely visible from the street, the current owners prefer to be hidden by the trees and shrubs. This large Craftsman home was designed by Hunt & Eager for Ms. Clara Pitt Durant. A divorcee from Michigan, Ms. Pitt took her settlement and began a new life in Los Angeles. The history of the house is recorded at: www.invisiblemanor.com

18 – Charles Clifford and Belle Case Gibbons Residence – 1915 S Oxford Ave – 1903 – Frank M Tyler.

This house, designed by Frank M Tyler, is unusual for the neighborhood because it is completely sheathed in shingles, including the front porch columns. It is a Transitional Victorian/Craftsman in the Shingle Style, with Colonial and Tudor touches. It was built for Charles Clifford Gibbons and Belle Case Gibbons, who came to Los Angeles in 1884. Mr. Gibbons worked his way to from stock boy to general manager of Hale’s Dry Goods Store. His employer, Jas M Hale was a relation of San Francisco’s Hale’s Bros. Department Store, the national chain. C C Gibbons died in 1910 after an illness and in 1912 the house was sold to Matt and Mary Conway. Matt Conway made his business in real estate and land speculation. Coincidentally, the third owner, Jon Fukuto, was also a proprietor of a chain of Los Angeles grocery stores call Jonson’s Supermarkets (the name being a play on words, combining “Jon” and “Sons”). In 1945, after being released from the Gila Internment Camp in Arizona, Mr. Fukuto moved his family to Los Angeles where he established the business.

Jul 18

Fighting Obesity

There’s no denying: obesity is getting to be a bigger and bigger problem in America. A study recently conducted by the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, obesity rates climbed in 23 states in 2008, with Southern and Midwestern states being particularly prone to the condition. It has gotten to the point where denial is no longer an option and we cannot afford to just sweep the problem under the rug anymore. If you suffer from obesity, you know that it affects all aspects of your life and makes you more prone to heart disease, diabetes, and countl

Too Big Too Fast

One of the main problems that causes obesity is the combination of cheap fast food and an increasingly sedentary lifestyle. As more and more of our jobs involve us sitting around staring at computer screens with little to no physical activity, we find that more and more people are becoming morbidly overweight. And with the increasing waistline comes an increasing risk for expensive health problems that will cost you and the American taxpayer a small fortune in controlling. It is important to start living a healthier, safer, longer life. Following these tips can help:

Start slow. The reason so many people give up their weight-loss goals is because they try to bite off more than they can chew. You can’t expect to wake up one day and run five miles after eating a walnut salad. Ease yourself out of your old habits, don’t try and jump in with both feet.
Take baby steps. You probably can’t run a marathon, so don’t even try. Start out just walking a little bit more regularly. Take the stairs up to the third floor instead of the elevator. Walk the dog more frequently. Instead of driving to the mailbox, take a stroll there. Doctors believe that walking an additional mile a day will stop most people from gaining weight.
Substitute foods. You can lose a substantial amount of weight by making healthier choices of your favorite foods. Lightly buttered popcorn, diet sodas, low-fat yogurt instead of ice cream, and leaner cuts of meat can all help you lose weight the relatively painless way. Sure, they may not taste quite as good, but they can be a lot easier to stick to than rice cakes and tofu.

Sticking With It

By making the weight-loss process less painful, you make it easier to adhere to. The point is to start losing weight and leading a healthier lifestyle, not drop off all your extra pounds overnight. Don’t beat yourself up if you start slow; by eating better and exercising more, you’re starting on your road to a healthier, more attractive you. Sticking with it can be one of the most rewarding things in the world.

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Jul 17

Nice In-laws And Marriage photos

Some cool in-laws and marriage images:

Downend Church in winter
in-laws and marriage
Image by Robert Cutts
A view of Christ Church, Downend, Gloucestershire, from North Street which, for reasons unknown, lies to the south of the village centre.

Christ Church, Downend, Gloucestershire was built as a chapel of ease to St James, Mangotsfield, in 1831 and was elevated to a parish church in 1874 when an Act of Parliament made Downend a independent parish. It contains memorial plaques to WG Grace and other members of the Grace family.

During the decade before its elevation to parish church status the curate of Downend had been an Irishman, the Rev John Walter Dann. It’s likely that, from 1874-1878, the then Vicar of Mangotsfield, the Rev Alfred Peache, doubled as Vicar of Downend with Dann as curate probably taking most of the services. Then, in 1878, Dann was ordained Vicar and he remained the incumbent until his death in 1915. Almost certainly Dann was the first occupant of the Vicarage.

Alfred Peache and John Dann were both interesting characters. Alfred, who was born in Lambeth in 1818, was the only surviving son of the industrialist James Courthope Peache. He, amongst other achievements, was responsible for the design of the Paxman "Peache Patent" High-Speed Single-Acting Steam Engines manufactured by Davey, Paxman & Co of Colchester. During a long life he amassed a considerable fortune some of which he used in the support of ecclesiastical and educational institutions. One example was his support for the living at Mangotsfield.

In 1842, perhaps with help from his father, the 23-year-old Alfred Peache was installed as curate of Mangotsfield under the Rev Robert Brodie who had been parish priest there since 1822. Then, in 1854 Alfred became curate of Heckfield in Hampshire. Although it has a huge church, Heckfield was – and still is – a tiny village and, as such, would warrant no more than a curate. Thus Alfred was the parish priest and could regard the move as a promotion. He was still in post at Heckfield when his father died in 1858 and Robert Brodie retired in 1859. By consequence of these two events Alfred inherited a considerable fortune and the living at Mangotsfield. He became one of the wealthiest clergymen in England and one of the most important benefactors of the Church of England. Some 20 or 30 English vicarages and churches, the London College of Divinity all became Peache beneficiaries. Included amongst them were the vicarages at Mangotsfield and Downend. After resigning as Vicar of Downend he retired to a house in Cambridge Park, Twickenham from where his influence spread yet wider. He was Chancellor of the Western Division of Ontario, Canada, in 1885 and became a benefactor of Huron College in Toronto. He died in Twickenham in the final months of 1900 but his memory is enshrined in the name of a road that, apropriately enough, runs from Mangotsfield to Downend.

John Dann was born in County Cork in 1842. When he died in 1915 he was sufficiently well known in cricketing circles to merit the following obituary in the 1915/16 Wisden’s Almanack:

"THE REV. JOHN WALTER DANN, M. A. brother-in-law of the late Dr. W. G. Grace, was born at Fermoy, County Cork, on November 20, 1842, and died at Downend, of which parish he had been Vicar for 47* years, on July 22. He was never much of a cricketer, but took a keen interest in the game, and played occasionally for the Thornbury and Downend clubs. He took a very active part in the formation of the Gloucestershire County C. C., undertaking practically all the correspondence in the matter for the late Dr. H. M. Grace. In his younger days he was an excellent lawn tennis player, and he played quite a good game until he was 70."

WG Grace, the most famous cricketer of all time, came from a Downend family and John Dann’s status as his brother-in-law came as a result of his marriage on 23 June 1869 to WG’s sister, Elizabeth Blanche Grace. That was while Downend was still a Chapel of Ease so the marriage took place in its mother church, St James, Mangotsfield. John Dann was born eight years before WG – enough for him to have been appointed tutor to the young cricketer. He also outlived him by eight years.

*In fact, although Dann was at Downend for 47 years, he was only Vicar for the last 37 of them.

Sources for the above include the National Archives, Oxford University Alumni, 1500-1886, ‘The University of London and its Colleges’ by Stanley Gordon Francis Wilson, 1923 (pp 99-100), ‘Our Parish Mangotsfield Including Downend’ by Arthur Emlyn-Jones (1899) and various Kelly’s county directories.

Jul 16

Author Shares Secret to Long Marriage

Author and psychologist Maggie Scarf, who has herself been married 55 years, interviewed 75 couples between 50 and 75 years old to learn about marriage in the later years. The result is a book called “September Songs: The Good News About Marriage in the Later Years.” She expected lots of complaints about how tough life and marriage was in these longer marriages. What she found was that most marriages showed a U-shaped trajectory over time.

In the beginning of these marriages was a blissful peak, which was followed by a challenging time with the stress of career building and child rearing. Many of you are currently in this challenging time. In fact, this is frequently when marriages fall apart or become extremely worn out. “Every marriage has a downside, a time when you looked across the room and thought …what is it with this person?” Scarf said. But there is a longer view to keep in mind.

What Scarf found was that couples who got through the tough patches gained more time together and “refound” one another, including the fun and intimacy they once had. They actually regained that peak point, making the other side of the U. Scarf calls these happier older years the “bonus years” which include a longer, healthier, happier life.

The secret of a long marriage may be that couples who stay together can envision this up side while they are enduring stressful times. In fact, I just interviewed an amazing military family that has endured an Iraq deployment and many years of infertility. Now that they have a house full of young children (which they struggled and longed for), they have little time for one another. However, they like to focus on the joy amidst the current chaos, and the peace they will eventually enjoy together when their children are a little older. In short, they can see to the other side.

Where are you in the “U”? How do you envision your future together?

Lori Lowe is a writer and communications consultant from Indianapolis. Her blog http://www.lorilowe.wordpress.com encourages couples in their marriages and family relationships. Subscribe today to read a positive voice in your inbox.

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Jul 14

Window Tint Laws In North Carolina

Many of us enthusiasts enjoy both the style and the practical benefits of tinting our vehicle windows or other auto glass, however the state of North Carolina does have its restrictions on how far we are allowed to take it. Preferences for window tinting vary widely, yet we are officially only able to do so much within the limits of the law, while the more extreme ideas remain on the cutting room floor, so to speak.
NC Safety Inspection stations will charge an extra fee to check a vehicle with aftermarket tint applied to its windows. All of the vehicle’s windows with applications of aftermarket window tint film must be checked with a photometer during the inspection to determine if the visible light transmission is within acceptable limits.
Windows must not be darker than 35% visible light transmission (VLT), making North Carolina one of the more lenient states in this area, with some others demanding 50-70% VLT. Additionally, the standard is considered to be met if the window tint is no lower than 32% visible light transmission when measured with a photometer. Windshield tinting is acceptable as long as the combination of factory and aftermarket tint is 32% visible light transmission at the minimum.
The windshield guidelines apply to every vehicle without exception, however certain exceptions for all other windows of the vehicle may apply to specific vehicle types, including excursion passenger vehicles, for-hire vehicles, child care vehicles, motorcycles, mopeds, school buses, motor homes, limousines and a few others including emergency vehicles such as ambulances.
There also exists medical exceptions to these rules in some cases, for instance individuals who suffer from a condition causing abnormal photo-sensitivity. In order to obtain such an exception, a permit must be obtained through the Drivers Medical Evaluation Program with medical evaluation forms being completed and submitted by your doctor to the DMV. Medical permits such as these are good for 5 years unless DMEP directs a shorter time. In order to renew such a permit once expired, the individual must be medically re-certified to determine whether the medical condition still exists.

Bruce DeDona is co-owner and manager of DeDona Auto Glass. Located in Greensboro, NC, DeDona Auto Glass has been the Triad’s premier provider of auto glass replacement and mobile auto glass repair for over 9 years.

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Jul 12

The Process of Forgiving Infidelity

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All things in life are a process. That goes the same with forgiving infidelity. When you get hurt you must move on. When you stumble and fall, you must learn how to stand up. Giving up should not be a part of an option. It is very normal for one person to get hurt when she finds out that her husband is having an affair. It hurts to the bone, and you have to deal about it. Of course, it is not in an instant that you will forget about everything. As I said, it is a process that you should go through. It is not prolonging the conflict but also to heal what has been broken.

 

 

As a wife, you should not end up with a decision to make a conclusion of your marriage. There is always a reason to everything that happened. Have an open dialogue with your husband. Ask him why he did such a thing. Should you continue with marriage? Does he still love you? Those are the questions that should be asked in the process of forgiving infidelity. Do not confront your husband in a manner that you are angry or too hurt. Let him realize your worth by being composed. A wife who is very good in handling issues simply means that he carries her and the entire family to be civil. You should possess such attitude.

 

 

There are many things you can do for this process. And there are people who can help you go through this. If you go to marriage counselors, they will be able to help you. They are available online and their services can help you survive and recover with your problem. You can bring your husband along as you discover the path of forgiving infidelity. You should make this choice.

 

 

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Jul 10

Laws To Protect Children

If you are a parent, and are involved in child protective proceedings attorney staten island, you have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be appointed to represent you.
If you are involved in child protective proceedings, exercise your right to counsel. Please do not assume that you can adequately represent yourself, or that the system is designed to protect your rights. You will be consistently warned throughout proceedings that you could face the permanent loss of your children as a result of the proceedings. That is no joke — get a lawyer.
Be forewarned that litigation in this area can be expensive — but remember that your family is at stake.
Defending Yourself
Typically, your best ability to defend agains this type of proceeding will be in its initial stages. This is when many people try to proceed without lawyers staten island, under the belief that if they consent to the court’s taking jurisdiction over their children they will somehow improve their chances of securing the return of their children. The reality is usually quite different. Involving a competent lawyer at the start of legal proceedings can help ensure that your rights are protected, and may even result in the return of your children to your home.
Reforms in the 1990’s have led to a system of laws in the United States that place a very high priority on permanence. If children have spent a year in foster care, courts and social workers are under considerable pressure to bring about a final resolution of their cases. At that time, if the parents are not ready to assume their responsibilities, or have not lived up to the court’s demands upon them, it is likely that a proceeding will follow to permanently terminate parental rights.
While parents have a right to appeal from the termination of parental rights attorney staten island, it is rare for appellate courts to grant relief. Thus it bears repeating, you are best served by obtaining quality representation at the trial court level, at the earliest possible opportunity.
Effect on the Extended Family
When a relative’s parental rights are terminated, the extended family’s rights are terminated as well. If you have a relative whose children are at risk of being taken from their home, you should consult with an attorney in your state about possible options which might protect your relationship with the children. That may involve convincing the relative to voluntarily let you care for the children for a period of time while they get their act together. If the relative won’t cooperate, it may involve petitioning a court for a guardianship over the children, giving you the right to care for the children until the parents remedy the problems in their home, but without the risk of the state terminating parental rights.

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Help My Marriage – Suggestions and Tips

Many partners will look for advice on how to help my marriage. You may feel that your situation is very bleak but as long as both of the individuals in the partnership are willing to work at it, it is possible to save your marriage. With such busy lives, particularly for those that work and having children, actually spending time with your partner can be difficult. You may feel that you two are slowly becoming strangers.

Therapy is recommended as a way to help both of you communicate. Though many may have issues with telling their personal issues to an outsider sometimes that outside perspective is just what the relationship needs. You also need to make time to be with each other no matter how busy your schedule is. This is a priority and needed for all happy marriages. You also do not need to agree all the time as long as your disagreements are constructive and do not get blown out of proportion.

All marriage experts state that to help my marriage at the start of your problems will have a higher probability of saving your marriage then waiting several years, unhappy years, in which you two are having issues. There is nothing the matter with getting help to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner. Though everyone states that communication is important you don’t need to share everything with your spouse. This is particularly relating to issues and problems. Do not harp on every little thing that annoys you but focus on the large issues. Editing your conversation can be very constructive when solving problems.

The tone of voice and manner in which you broach issues is also important. Being calm and using a quiet tone of voice tends to result in faster outcomes with no one becoming upset. If you yell and place the blame immediately on your partner then there is a good chance that the issue will not be resolved and the arguments may drag on for some time.

It is also important not to set the bar too high, as no one is perfect. Many newlyweds will have high standards for their partners and have difficulty with forgiveness. Being able to be influenced and flexible with your partner will go along way. Many researchers find that men have more difficulty with this then women. If your partner needs some help and you have plans then it will go a long way to change your plans to help your partner. It is not necessary to do this every time but your partner will appreciate it when you do.

The art of exiting an argument is very important, as you want to head off any arguments that appear to be blowing out of proportion. You can accomplish this by changing the subject, using humor, reminding your partner that you are on their side, telling them that you care and more. It is also important not to dwell on the negative as those that stay positive including how they remember and are in their relationship will have a healthier relationship in the long run and this is an easy but effective way to help my marriage.

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Caduceus

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From Sculptor James Nathaniel Muir’s website, www.jamesmuir.com :

"Caduceus", recognized as a universal medical symbol, in this bronze representation by James N. Muir has become and Angel of Healing bringing love and peace upon the earth and all of its inhabitants. She is 12 feet high with a 9-foot wing span and includes fountain capabilities.

In a limited edition of 12.

"My goal is to see these "Seven Ladies on Seven Continents" transcending individual differences to become a unifying symbol for the universal kinship of humanity and all creation in a physical metaphor representing the spiritual connection between all things. To help bring the healing power of love into the earth, ushering in a new era of Peace."
James Nathan Muir

"Recognized internationally as the universal symbol of Medicine, the "Caduceus" has become an Angel of Healing rising, like the mythical Phoenix heralding a New Era of harmony and Peace, to heal the Earth and all its inhabitants with Love as the Master Physician."

The word "Caduceus" (Ka-doo’-seus) originates from the Greek "karykeion", itself derived from "karyx" meaning a herald’s badge or staff. In latin, the word, "Caduceum" means practically the same. The caduceus was worn or displayed by Roman surgeons, official messengers, and by military emissaries to signify a cessation of hostilities on the battlefield. It symbolized the herald of the gods, –Mercury in Rome and Hermes in Greece–who carried a winged wand on which were coiled two serpents, symbolizing male and female. Legend was that Hermes came upon two serpents at war and, in his beguiling manner placed a staff, which Aesculapius had given him (also a symbol used in Medicine), between them whereupon entwining with it, they ceased warring and began loving one another thus expressing unity, fertility, and peace.

While Hermes was sometimes associated with more roguish elements, in the third century, along with being guardian of health, he came to be connected with theology and philosophy. Later, in the sixteenth century, though not himself a physician, chemistry, pharmacy and medicine came under his domain as well. In 2000 B.C., records indicate the physician to the Sumerian King used the symbol of a staff entwined with two serpents. In 1856, it was selected as the emblem of the U.S. Marine Hospital Service, the Public Health Service in 1871, The U.S. Army Medical Corps in 1902, then the Dental Corps, Veterinary Corps, Army Nursing Corps, and the Sanitary Corps. The American Medical Association officially employed it in 1912. (from "The Virtual Hospital" by Clifford C. Snyder, M.D.).

At this critical juncture in world history, the Caduceus seems a uniquely appropriate symbol for the redirection of hatred and conflict by the staff of a higher Power to produce unification, harmony and peace on earth. As "Quo Vadis" depicts our upward spiritual journey, "Caduceus" expresses the initial spiritual flow of energy from Creator to Creation. Also like "Quo Vadis", the symbologies run so deep and complex that, other than a brief overview, the allegories are best left to the personal insight of each individual.

The seven-rayed crown or tiara in the form of a nurse’s cap and the crown of Liberty (physical and spiritual) also refers to the seven energy centers of the body as well as to the seven ancient Hermetic causes of "dis-ease." The latter being physical: (1) misuse of faculty, organ or function, (2) presence of foreign substances, impurities or obstructions in the system, and superphysical: (3) unhealthy (negative) mental attitudes (thoughts), (4) imbalance (disharmony) between the physical and spiritual nature, (5) internal spiritual influences, (6) external spiritual influences, (7) astrological energy influences. More directly, the seven rays issue forth the likewise ancient healing energies to flow down the seven ringlets of hair upon a disparate world: (1) practical allopathic medicine, (2) naturopathic medicine of diet, exercise and daily healthful habits, (3) homeopathic medicine of nature’s herbs, (4) vibration and color, (5) amulets, (6) invocations, and (7) prayer, which cures all but requires faith.

The jewel on her forehead, over the mystical third or spiritual eye, represents vision with full intuitive insight and acuity into the esoteric world of healing and metaphysical reality. The "sun-moon" of the earrings are traditional symbols for the "doctor-patient" relationship but herein reflect the perfect balance of the fully spiritualized energy of the "Yang" and the "Yin", mind-heart symbols. At her back, the feather of Truth (Ma’at) is tied at the juncture where the two polarities of her braids become one in completeness. The "ANKH", the "key" or "staff" of life is an ancient healing device pre-dating Egypt’s symbolic use by thousands of years. Here it is combined with the equally ancient "Rose Croix" (cross) of spiritual unfoldment over a divine trinity of leaves, along with three nails signifying the sacrifice of the lower self (Mind, Emotional Body, Soul) for the resurrection of the true Higher Self. The jewel rests upon her breast to radiate down healing energy in the form of rain water flowing forth through her open exposed heart.

The nine-foot wings (the number nine being the number of Unconditional Universal Love as well as "Mankind") with their twenty-four primary feathers, expand to shield, protect and uplift a disparate and fearful world. The Lady’s hands raised in blessing, with one and two fingers raised to signify the two universal commandments also for the twin signs for "Love" and "Peace." Her left hand bears the wedding ring of perfect union with the Creator, a marriage of Heaven and Earth, while her right hand bears the ancient signature ring of –in service to the Creator through service to His creation.

In a whirlwind of energy, her hair ribbons radiate to the ends of the earth: the front ribbons with twelve suns symbolic of the months of the solar year and the higher, universal life cycle this world of humanity in transiting, the rear ribbons with one hundred and forty-four (twelve-square) stars symbolizing a new enlightened level of awareness. The bow at the top, with one and seven stars, suggests the crest of the mythical "Phoenix" bird as she rises out of the ashes of the old-world thinking of mankind, and, with acute vision, sees and comprehends the truth in all things. The "Ourobaros", the serpent swallowing its tail in eternal resurrection and renewal like the Phoenix herself, continues its never-ending cycle around her crown.

Whirling up in their own double vortex of energy rise the twin serpents of the Caduceus. Like the serpents which the Hopi legends say reside at the earth’s poles awaiting the time to be re-awakened into activity, they are kept in balance by her wisdom in a symbiotic relationship of spiritual/physical, heart/head energies and form the double helix of the human DNA molecule. The python represents the "spiritual" while the cobra symbolizes the "body"; both in harmony provide a balance point or fulcrum for the "mind" to bring forth peace and healing.

The old earth symbolically, and literally, is falling away to reveal the golden orb of a new world of enlightenment, harmony and peace. America is transformed into the genesis of that New Era, tasked to responsibly lead the way into a brighter and better future for all. If she fails in this regeneration, then her fate is sealed and the Phoenix shall rise from the ashes of her funeral pyre.

The base establishes the orientation of the four quarters with the center, the sacred point or "Sanctum Sanctorum" being the earth herself. While we, as humans, must heal the earth, the earth must first heal us humans. The perfect elixir of the mythical "philosopher’s stone" combined the four elements in ideal balance to heal any "dis-ease." This magic elixir flows forth gentle as the rain from the spouts of each element — Fire, Water, Air, Earth–through Truth and Peace to the four corners of the earth. The true physician can only heal through the power of love and, though the lessons will be hard ones, the earth will teach us love-love for this sacred living planet, love for all creation, and perhaps even love for ourselves. Then, and only then, will we take our rightful place as master physicians to share the promise of Caduceus’ enigmatic dolphin in healing the earth and being the true stewards of all creation. As the most important symbol of all, the benevolent, compassionate expression of the lady herself, is to remind us all that perfect healing must begin with perfect love and, even in the darkest hour of the darkest night of the soul, Love will be the Master Physician.

James Nathan Muir

DHS Sept 1974 p. 458 Charley reading book
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STORY 25 – Jasper Thompson – CONCLUSION by Jim Surkamp
By Jim Surkamp on March 11, 2017 in Jefferson County

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The dirt and blood went on ’till next spring. Vast dead on the open fields no longer caused tears or sighs,

but to think of one person – Dolly – lit Jasper’s sustaining dream of that day he would walk through the door in Jefferson County a free man, hoping to become a husband, a father, and a pillar in his church.

Jasper Thompson – courtesy Monique Crippen-Hopkins

Returning Home by Gilbert Gaul Birmingham Museum of Art gift of John Meyer.jpg

Claymont – WVU Library West Virginia & Regional History Center
Claymont was quiet. The fences gone ever since

Gen. Sheridan took them and the Washington

cattle sent south with the Union army – their walking food supply: Washington beef cooked over the fire made of Washington fence rails.

The Leader of the Herd – by Edwin Forbes

The Washingtons were allowed just one “milch cow.” That was punishment by Sheridan for taking in two of their visiting close kin —

A Cow in the Pastures – Constant Troyon – 1856.

soldiers James C. Washington and Herbert Lee Alexander.

Sheridan forbid their release because he firmly believed with little evidence they

fought for Mosby’s partisans. They both died before 1867 because prison hardships quickened their frailties. (Tombstone Inscriptions, p. 353, p. 378).

Herbert Lee Alexander Stone Zion
James C. Washington Stone Zion

That summer of 1865, John Trowbridge wrote that Charles Town seethed in resentment. ‘The war feeling here is like a burning bush with a wet blanket wrapped around it. Looked at from the outside, the fire seems quenched. But just peep under the blanket and there it is, all alive and eating, eating in. The wet blanket is the present government policy; and every act of conciliation shown the Rebels is just letting in so much air to feed the fire.’ . . .

the townspeople passed on the sidewalk, ‘daughters and sons of beauty,’ for they were mostly a fine-looking, spirited class; one of whom, at a question which I put to him, stopped quite willingly and talked with us.

I have seldom seen a handsome young face, a steadier eye, or more decided pose and aplomb, neither have I ever seen the outward garment of courtesy so plumply filled out with the spirit of arrogance. His brief replies spoken with a pleasant countenance, yet with short, sharp downward inflections, were like pistol shots. . . And no wonder. His coat had an empty sleeve. The arm which should have been there had been lost fighting against his country. His almost savage answers did not move me; but all the while I looked with compassion at his fine

young face, and that pendant idle sleeve. . .

His beautiful South was devastated, and her soil drenched with the best blood of her young men.

Walking through town we came to other barren and open fields on the further side.

Here we engaged a bright young colored girl to guide us to the spot where John Brown’s gallows stood. She led us into the wilderness of weeds waist-high to her as she tramped on, parting them before her with her hands. . . A few scattering groves skirted them; and here and there a fenceless road drew its winding, dusty line away over the arid hills. ‘This is about where it was, ’ said the girl, after searching some time among the tall weeds.

Bushrod Corbin Washington returned from years of fighting adjusting to the departure of his widowed mother to become a missionary in Asia. He re-married, faced almost insurmountable financial odds that would eventually force him to sell Claymont out of the

family and start over in Washington State.

Richard Blackburn Washington’s family felt the loss of what Gen. Sheridan’s men took the previous November when they also captured and took away the two young Washingtons.

Both Richard and Bushrod had wartime losses but their alliances with the Confederacy during the war, either fighting or providing supplies, disqualified both from any claim for compensation for their material losses, and those that November were substantial:

500 bushels of potatoes,

four horseloads of straw,

3000 pounds of bacon,

200 cords of firewood,

30,000 rails for fire wood, four horse wagonloads of stacked wheat, 200 bushels of housed corn,

40 tons of timothy hay,

150 head of sheep,

100 head of hogs,

30 head of fat beef cattle, four mules and three horses.
This setback left them little monies with which to hire from the much-in-demand pool of young, strong, and skilled freed African-American laborers working across the County, for those who could pay them.

Though they lived next door, neither Solomon nor Jasper’s names appear among those hired in Bushrod Corbin’s farm and payment records after the war.

Bushrod Corbin Washington’s Farm Diary 1867-1871 – Perry Room, Charles Town, Library

Resentment at their lot could easily have translated into not seeking the services from a former veteran of the U.S. Colored Troops to till and grow their corn and wheat, or tend their hogs.

Solomon and his family appeared to have found living arrangements at Bushrod Washington Herbert’s Prospect Hill that had been expanded over time to include the house, other buildings, a barn and even a graveyard. They would have fit in, joining Solomon’s sister, Matilda, and brother Richard.

Solomon and son Jasper would likely be hired at Henry B. Davenport’s farm, Altona, immediately north and adjacent to the Washington farms,

Portrait of Henry B. Davenport of Altona, Jefferson County, W. Va. who in some twenty years would transfer his deed to the land for the homestead of Solomon and then Jasper’s family.

As one who had seen hell and survived, Jasper plunged into his new life.

Of those years, Doug Taylor of Charles Town relates from his family’s history that African American communities were starting all across Jefferson County, vivified by the new freedom, owning one’s own land, with a church and a school .

Jasper and Dolly joyously married October 28, 1869 with Beverly Kirk, presiding.

On Thursday, October 21st, less than a month later,
Jasper took a lead in organizing an impressive big event in Charlestown for the new organization: the Order of Industry, a celebration that included a procession to Bushrod Washtingotn Herbert’s “woods” with a band playing followed by speechifying. The editor of the Spirit of Jefferson in Charlestown, Benjamin F. Beall, lavished praise on the event:

Last Thursday was a gala day with our (African) American citizens, and they enjoyed it hugely; but in a manner creditable to them, and in a style which would have reflected no discredit upon any community.

It seems that there exists in our midst a society of the colored people known as the “Order of Industry,” and it was the members of this society, arrayed in appropriate regalia, and the two Sabbath Schools of the town, that made up the procession. — To the first, there was a banner presented by the “colored ladies” of the town, in front of the old Court-House. Upon this banner was the significant motto, “By industry we thrive.”

The presentation was by Miss Houk, and the reception by Jasper Thompson, both of whom acquitted themselves very well. After these exercises, the procession moved to Herbert’s Woods, headed by Moxley’s Brass Band from Hagerstown. – Spirit of Jefferson, October 26, 1869 – p. 3 col. 1

Dolly and Jasper began their own in-house community when Solomon H. Thompson was born August, 1870. (Monique Crippen Hopkins) – the first of fifteen children.

The first, Solomon; the fifth, named Jasper R.; and the thirteenth child, Frances – would keep the family memory fires aburnin’.

Jasper and Dolly’s first born Solomon H. – would carry the family’s ways forward and far away, preserving its legacy with a powerful mind and dedication.

Protecting the Groceries by Edward Lamson Henry.
He was certainly among the young scholars who attended

Littleton Page’s school for African-American children, located conveniently right next door to the second Baptist Church. Littleton Page would very likely have taught all the subsequent Thompson children, because they lived a short walk from the school.

Kept In by Edward Lamson Henry.

David Hunter Strother, who was a famous writer/illustrator for Harper’s New Monthly Magazine and who grew up in the eastern Panhandle, dropped in on such a school nearby and very much in the same spirit of the Page’s Charlestown classrooms in 1874.

At the Mill, Winter by George Henry Durrie

In winter (it) is always full to overflowing. In summer the attendance is reduced one-half owing to the necessity of the older pupils going out to service,

Harpers Ferry, [W.] Va., 1894 by Edward Lamson Henry

or engaging in remunerative labor of some sort. The children were of both sexes, ranging

p. 458 – boy reading book.

p. 460 – older student

p. 461 – woman at blackboard

from three to twenty years of age, neatly and comfortably clad, well fed, healthy, and cheerful, with an uncommon array of agreeable and intelligent countenances peering over the tops of the desks. They were also remarkably docile, orderly, and well mannered, without a trace of the rudeness among those who don’t go to school.

p. 459 – Don’t Go to School.

Every thing moves by the silvery tinkling of a small table-bell. The boys and girls are seated in separate columns, and make their entrances and their exits by opposite doors.

William Henry Snyder (1829–1910) Tutoring the Children at a Quiet Time

Proclamation emancipation, [Smith/Rosenthal].

The Chimney Corner by Eastman Johnson

While the majority of the pupils have come into existence since the Emancipation Proclamation, there is still a number older than that event, and some whose recollections antedate the great war. Yet in their career of schooling they have all started even, and it is rather curious and amusing to remark the utter absence of any thing like gradation in size or equality in years. . . . .It may also be observed that the great scholars are usually outstripped by the little ones, which only goes to confirm the generally received opinion that young plants are more easily transplanted and trained than older ones.

Solomon H. Thompson – was one such young plant that grew and grew, majestically fed by his inner drive.

Wrote one newspaper editor:

Campus of Storer College

He attended his home school until he finished and entered Storer College at the age of 13 years and in 1886 he graduated, but claimed that his education was not completed. Not having satisfied his craving for knowledge and ambition to fully prepare himself for life’s battle, he immediately

St. Johns College. Fordham, New York

entered Fordham University and at the expiration of a three years course, the last year of which was spent in the office of a physician, he began the study of medicine earnestly until the year of 1889. He determined to leave for Washington, D.C. where

Howard University Medical School

he matriculated at Howard University. Two months after his admission to said university he was successful and given the appointment of resident student to the hospital a place that is highly prized by all medical students. He retained this position until he graduated in April, 1892.

His brother, Jasper or “Jack” Thompson was moving towards medicine also. Both brothers would wind up in Kansas City, Kansas for the balance of their lives and remarkable contributions.

All this time the conscientious Solomon H. was collecting information from his graying forebears while it was still to be had all about his family, down the back road of time.

The Thompsons, Nelsons and Saunders – families that worked for the Blakeley/Claymont Washingtons for many years, still lived near one another and the old farms.

From the “Down Memory Lane” section of the Spirit of Jefferson Farmer’s Advocate, courtesy of Edward W. (Pat) Dockney, Jr.)

They gravitated to the services of the white-led First Baptist Church in Charlestown as they were beginning to raise families.
his church congregation supported them and paid for Jesse Saunders to study at the Richmond Theological School. Charlestown businessman William Hill, a white Baptist, provided much of the funds for the new Rev. Saunders for him to have his own Church congregation, which was built at its present location, (but an earlier structure than today’s), on Martin Luther King Jr. Avenue at the intersection of Summit Point Road and Middleway (Rte. 51) Pike. It was called – the “Second Baptist Church.”

On August 6, 1881 their church was completed to receive the Holy Spirit. Its first board of trustees, were William Braxton, Ben Nelson – and Jasper Thompson.

On June 12, 1903, The Martinsburg Statesman of Martinsburg reported that two hundred African Americans left Kabletown and Rippon to coal tons in Pennsylvania and southwest, West Virginia

1906 – Come the Flood of Destiny

Late summer in Jefferson County stands out on the calendar for the heaviest rain storms in decades – a month of rains . hundreds of bullets and materiel on the Antietam Battlefield came to the earth’s surface.

The American story for a weekend that August touched on Harper’s Ferry – for good luck.

W.E.B. DuBois, its leader stood there before both men and women for the first time in public and on American soil. He stated the principles of a soon to-be formed organization, to become known as the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People:

The battle we wage is not for ourselves alone but for all true Americans. It is a fight for ideals, lest this, our common fatherland, false to its founding, become in truth, the land of the thief and the home of the slave, a byword and a hissing among the nations for its sounding pretensions and pitiful accomplishments. In detail, our demands are clear and unequivocal. First, we would vote; with the right to vote goes everything: freedom, manhood, the honor of your wives, the chastity of your daughters, the right to work, and the chance to rise, and let no man listen to those who deny this.We want full manhood suffrage, and we want it now, henceforth and forever!

A local church group sang from Charles Town with one Richard Thompson listed among the chorale.

by Richard Fitzhugh.

On the last day – a Sunday – the attendees in their Sunday finest – picked their way over soggy lands – their fine shoes in hand – to see the building that was the lightning rod of conflict for the struggle. Standing in a characterless open field stood the real “John Brown Fort,” in 1859 once the Armory engine house. Today, the brick crucible for freedom

Life went on.

The skies cleared August 31st – a Friday – in time for the eagerly anticipated Morgans Grove County Fair and accompanying horse show featuring a hundred entrants. Dry ground meant visitors could set up their family sized tents and stay all through the Fair. That began Tuesday September 4th.

In two days, something terrible happened.

Shepherdstown Register September 13, 1906
Editor Henry L. Snyder

A Tragedy on Charles Town District

A fatal tragedy, attended by some peculiar circumstances, occurred last Thursday afternoon at Gibsontown, a negro settlement about two miles south of Charles Town. A man named Samarion, who says that his father was a Hindoo and his mother an Egyptian woman, came to this country from Sidney, Australia, some eighteen months ago and located near Charles Town. He was a music teacher, and earned his living by following his profession. He incurred the enmity of his negro neighbors by advising them to accept white supremacy as a settled fact, and his views upon this subject are said to have aroused strenuous animosity of Jasper Thompson, a colored man, who, it is said, advocated negro equality and was particularly officious at elections in opposing the white majority. Under the leadership of Thompson, the negroes of the neighborhood are said to have been persecuting Samarion and his wife in various ways, Thursday Samarion notified Thompson to keep his hogs out his (Samarion’s) lot of he would kill them. This started the trouble afresh. Sometime during the afternoon Thompson went to Samarion’s house. Samarion says that his enemy threatened to kill him and made a motion to draw a pistol. Samarion quickly pulled his own revolver and shot Thompson twice, and the wounded man walked a few steps and fell dead.

Sarmarion’s word was all they had.

The next March, Circuit Judge Faulkner gave Samarion two years in Moundsville penitentiary.

So it goes.

Monique Crippen Hopkins:

So, one day, I was just doing my research on the Thompson family like I ordinarily do – and

Shelley Murphy said to me: “There’s somebody I think you need to meet.” I said: “OK.” So she put me in touch with Joyceann Gray. Me and Joyceann realized that we were related through marriage.

Her Cross family had married my Thompson family – three different times. So I told Joyceann that I had a lot of information and we started sharing information. I said: “I have a quote from the Thompson family and our family has some history out at the University of Kansas because two of the Thompson sons moved out there.” She wanted to see it. She said: ”Can you send me that quote?”

(I said “yeh.” I didn’t think about it. (delete) (After Monique sent the quote) – She wrote back to me and said: “I sent (the quote) off. Is that OK?” and I was excited . . . actually ordered it.”

Well that quote came back less than a week later and my entire family history was on this page.

Slave names and everything. Unbelievable, So surreal. I get chills just thinking about them. My entire family history. So that led me back two more generations to the original Jasper Thompson who was enslaved by John and Elizabeth Ariss, and his kids – Fortune – was of the Blakeley plantation; and then Fortune’s kids ended up somehow on the Claymont plantation. I’m not exactly sure where that transfer came from. I don’t know how they went back and forth from Claymont to Blakeley.

That’s where most of my research comes in. There’s plenty of documentation. Even after finding this family history page, Sarah Brown led me to a website that was put up by Scott Casper. He had tables of slaves listed and who owned them from the Washington family. I found my family. Just as they are listed on my family Bible page, they were listed on these tables that Scott had posted up, which led me to even more research. The whole research on the Thompson family has been one of the most amazing journies in my research. So that’s pretty much my story about the Thompson family history.

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